He Says, She Says
Posted on June 21, 2009 - Filed Under Uncategorized | 7 Comments
I know all couples run into communication issues because . . . well, guys are just weird, but sometimes I think the cultural differences make life even more difficult than a regular relationship. Take, for example, when I something is “tonto” or silly. Did you know that this is a SERIOUS insult in Spanish? If you say something is silly, that´s basically saying it is the stupidest thing you´ve ever seen. So, there´s a word not to use with a latino lightly.
For the most part though, our blunders are simply mistakes that are probably very common between the two genders. A few examples:
She says: “I can´t WAIT to take the kids to the fair! Let´s go tomorrow if it´s not raining!”
He hears: “Please, take the kids to the fair without me while I nap.”
She says: “Kids, please calm down, you’re irritating me with all that screaming.” (this might possibly be said in a rather angry tone)
He hears: “Get these creatures out of here before I kill someone.”
She says: “I´m fat.”
He hears: “Bring me chocolate.”
She says: “I´m stressed out with work.”
He hears: “You suck as a husband because you don’t earn millions of dollars, I want someone new.”
She says: “We should get out more as a couple.”
He hears: static, crickets chirping
Before you think this post is just putting guys down, I KNOW that I don´t say things the way I should. I mean, it´s not like I haven´t learned yet that I need to be specific in how I word things, as in “Please don´t take the kids to the fair until we can go as a family.” It´s not that Irving (or, I suspect, men in general) is going out of his way to misunderstand me, he simply doesn´t think the way I do and doesn´t get that a comment I make early in the day means I want or don´t want something later in the day. But I often forget that he´s not a sister or something and so we run into these problems.
Also, I´m sure that things go the other way, as well, but since I´m kinda stuck on the female end, I can´t give many examples!
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Ahhhhh, oh how I want to leave a cute comment, but I just can’t stop laughing . . .
Glad I’m not the only one that has this problem! Although I do think I make matters worse for my fiance when I am halfway through a mental thought process, and only verbally express the second half to him, expecting him to obviously know what I’m talking about
Oh, I do that, too!! It must be awfully confusing for a guy.
I think women tend to tune in to stuff like that, plus I know I usually talk more around my sisters, so it doesn´t happen as often. 
I hope that´s laughing with me . . . .
XX/XY=basic gender difference in our married lives, I think it is what makes it so crazy but also so very interesting. We cannot understand our mates because they are wired different at the most basic level.
I think I finally have Jeff trained. He’s learned to listen to what I MEAN, not what I SAY.
Thank goodness.
Oh this is too funny. My husband is just like that. What’s scarier is your choice of topics – I talk about that stuff every day. Instead of fair, replace with: you should spend more time with your son and share his interest in film (he hears: take yourself and the kids out of the house so I can write and goof off in peace