Comments on: The Joys of Being Second-Born

By: Debbie Dubrow

Debbie Dubrow — Sun, 12 Oct 2008 23:18:42 +0000

This post came at a great moment for me. Today is my youngest’s 2nd birthday. All day long, whenever anyone asks, she’s been saying “I’m 3 1/2,” (that’s how old her brother is) and she’s incredibly disappointed when we tell her that she is 2.

Still, I think the being sensitive to how they are feeling is half the battle. As they get older, the age difference won’t matter as much, and they’ll be able to share more of the same experiences.

Good luck!

By: connie

connie — Sun, 12 Oct 2008 08:26:48 +0000

Even my little girl has issues with my attention to her big brother. She adores and loves her brother, but is jealous. It’s hard when he needs extra time for help with homework or whatever. I need to constantly remind her of the one-on-one things we do together… then she’s ok with it. I also avoid telling her ‘because he’s bigger/older’ without explanation. “He’s taller and can reach without climbing – you can too when you are several inches higher.” I also remind her that there are things that her brother did NOT get to do when he was her age, and things that he HAS to do now that he is older, that she does not have to do. … this makes sense to her and she accepts it. I just have to repeat it often!

By: Expat Mom

Expat Mom — Sun, 12 Oct 2008 04:01:44 +0000

@Gloria, it might be stronger with same sex siblings, but Irving`s younger sister is just so bitter and I know my second sister is, too. :S As for the thanking thing, it`s gotten a little out of hand. lol. They say thank you a million times a day! And we MUST say, “you`re welcome” back.

@Nicole, I`m not worried about Dorian drinking soy, but he knows that he shouldn`t have the real milk, so he only took a couple of sips so he wouldn`t hurt Dante`s feelings. I thought it was very sweet.

@Christine, I so don`t have your patience. I thought I wanted four kids, but two is running me into the ground! Which probably makes you laugh . .. it would be like you being totally worn out with just Jonny and Dennis!

By: Christine

Christine — Sun, 12 Oct 2008 02:22:00 +0000

Your boys are so cute. You might be right about a second child but I think things change when you have a third.

By: NICOLE

NICOLE — Sun, 12 Oct 2008 02:13:25 +0000

BOTH THE BOYS ARE SO CUTE AND YOUR RIGHT LITTLE BOYS NEED LOTS OF TIME WITH THEIR PAPA’S.ANOTHER SIMULARITY BETWEEN OUR BOYS JOBIE DRINK REAL MILK AND JACOB DRINKS SOY,AND DON’T WORRY ABOUT THAT BABY HE WILL GROW UP JUST FINE. HE IS LOVED!

By: Gloria

Gloria — Sun, 12 Oct 2008 00:33:20 +0000

Tasha! Oh, this is a post about Dante? =P That is so sweet of your boys to offer and thank each other. Thanking your own brother at that age…i think that is something!

It might be because both of them are boys? My younger brother and I don’t seem to have this problem…though what do I know, I’m eldest. =P

Hero and his elder brother however does exhibit this love/hate thing. Second born of the same gender seems to be more competitive.